If you’d rather read this message, the words are provided below:
I made a short video on TikTok to address the app’s obvious agenda to promote the sinful lifestyle of the LGBTQ community.
In my video, I said the following: “Oof, I’m going to receive a lot of hate for this one, but I love you enough to tell you the Truth. So, TikTok is openly promoting stuff like this [ad with transgender who is promoting acceptance of LGBTQ community]. Transgender. Now, listen: I love you. You’re loved. We don’t hate you. But you need to know the Truth. And the Truth is you’re either male or female and that’s the way it is at birth. This is the way GOD created us. Look: biology, anthropology, and GOD’s Word — that’s a tripled-braided cord you’re not going to snap. That’s just the Truth of things. You’re loved, but we need to stop spreading lies because a tolerance to lies is an intolerance to Truth. And I love you enough to tell you the Truth.”
In response to my video, a girl who claimed to be Christian wrote to me essentially a letter of rebuke. So, the following is her letter to me and my response to her. And hopefully, we can all learn from this.
From: Girl who claims to be a Christian
To: Pastor Trenton
Hi, I don’t know you very well. I’m not sure of your history or what you may know (or not know) about the Bible. So I’ll assume you are educated, probably more than I am on the subject.
I don’t need a response back. I’m not here to degrade your morals. I just want you to do me one favor. Please really carefully consider what I’m about to say. In the end you can agree or disagree and go on without messaging me back anything harsh or unkind because I genuinely want to show you something that I feel God is telling me to show you. Much better written out in an email than on a small tik tok post.
Let’s assume you are right about what is and is not a sin. I won’t argue that point even though I could, I understand where you are coming from, and I also know that I’m not capable of handling that debate. Again not saying I think you are wrong, I just see both sides and I think it’s possible you are wrong. But that is neither here nor there.
Your profile says you were once an atheist, and you are now a pastor. That is amazing! Can I ask you one thing? How did you come to that very drastic change? I don’t need to know of course, but it would help to think of it during this. Was it someone shaming atheism and it just showed you the error of your ways? Or was it more personal? Was it someone shouting to all their followers their personal beliefs and you just got saved right there? Or does your story have a more intimate meaning?
You are a pastor. You are a shepherd. Do you love that job? How do you define yourself? Have you ever witnessed someone being saved? How did they get to be that way? I assume you take this role very seriously. You spread your truth. I’ll even go as far as to say His truth. But how do you come across? Do you gain faith believers in the way you communicate? Does shouting on your video… “ohhh I’m going to receive a lot of hate for this one” sound like an invitation to learn about God? Is that really how He wants you displaying His message?
If you’re answer to that is yes, please think hard. Did Jesus come down and shame everyone who was walking in the wrong light? Or did He befriend them? Did He walk through town with His head held high as he looked down on all the people who were non believers? Or did He try a different approach?
Did that message, or similar harsh messages, bring anyone to salvation? I’m serious, did anyone message you after that post and say I have sinned and I want you to teach me the error of my ways? If the answer to that is no, than I ask you. What is the point? Because if that is how you make disciples I would be astonished. If it was that easy we’d have a world much more full of them!
Granted you have a following, I haven’t seen a lot of your videos. Although I added you at one point, I’m sure for a good reason. Besides the people that follow you on your journey because they believe in your message. Tell me, as one of God’s shepherd’s…. if you are not awakening anyone’s desire for Christ. Then what are you doing?
We all sin. Every single one of us. And gay or not, Trans or not, we are ALL sinners. And you are no less a sinner than your transgender brothers and sisters. Please remember that when you post. It’s really hard to take advice from someone who seems so high on his pedestal. Come down, and show everyone your personal side. Engage with people on a real level. And if God wants to change them, He will change them, let Him do that work. He does miracles.
You are not leading anyone to pasture by pointing out their sins as if your own sins aren’t also a sin to God. Ask yourself, is this the best way that I can serve Him? If you’re not getting non believers or sinners to come to you repenting and being saved, I would take a step back from your platform and pray for a better understanding on how to communicate with the other side.
Thank you for listening.
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(Matthew 25: 35-40)
From: Pastor Trenton
To: Girl who claims to be a Christian
Hi Sarah. Thanks for the email. You may not initially believe this, but I truly do appreciate your letter. I know you told me that I don’t need to respond to your letter, but it would be unloving of me to simply ignore what you’ve written. Your words matter, don’t they? I want to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings and let you know that you matter. Indeed, you are loved. In a loving conversation, there exists a dialogue, not just a one-sided monologue. And that’s why I’m always happy to read what others write to me and am also happy to respond.
First, you asked me how I became a Christian from having once been an atheist. If you truly desire to know, I uploaded my testimony on YouTube:
My Testimony:
https://youtu.be/0pA9qo8FrJA
Next, I appreciate your letter because one of my daily prayers to GOD is much like the one David prayed to the Lord in Psalm 139:23-24. So, I always pray, “Lord, search my heart! Holy Spirit, please fill my heart with conviction if you find any wrong in me and with how I’m representing You! I don’t want to live wrong or misrepresent you. Please give me discernment and greater wisdom and help me to be more like You. I want to be an accurate reflection of who You are!”
After all, the last thing I ever want to do is misrepresent the Lord. So, your letter to me served as a spiritual inspection point where I had to undergo an alignment check. And that is necessary for my walk with Christ. All Christians should regularly have such alignment checks. So, thank you. I appreciate it. When I read your letter, I prayed for the Holy Spirit to expose any lies (inconsistencies with His Word) and reveal all the Truth and to align my thoughts with His will.
You are right to believe that relationship is important and loving people should be a priority. In fact, the Lord commanded us to love people in the greatest commandment (Matthew 22:37-39). So, should we love people? Yes! Absolutely!
But this begs the question: what does it mean to love someone? Let’s use a drug user as an example. If my brother was an alcoholic or hooked on crystal meth (which he was at some point in the past), should I approve of what he’s doing even if I accept and love him as a person? If I tell him that he is doing wrong and needs to change his lifestyle by making different and better choices, is that unloving? In this scenario, both love and Truth are necessary. In fact, you simply cannot love someone unless you share Truth with that person. My brother hated me for a long time because I loved him and continued telling him the truth: he was living wrong. Did that change my love for him? No. But Truth is a seed that grows within a person’s heart. Eventually, he realized he was only pursuing his desires, destroying himself, and not living a healthy life of truth. And this scenario would be the same even if I loved a prostitute enough to tell her the truth that she needs to change her ways or if I told my best friend that having an affair on his wife is wrong. In fact, Jesus Himself told us that it is only the Truth of His Word that will set people free:
(John 8:31-34) -NASB
“31 So Jesus was saying to those Jews who had believed Him, “If you continue in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine; 32 and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.” 33 They answered Him, “We are Abraham’s descendants and have never yet been enslaved to anyone; how is it that You say, ‘You will become free’?” 34 Jesus answered them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is the slave of sin.”
Only the Truth of GOD’s Word will set people free. And anyone who does not abide in GOD’s Word is not in alignment with Truth; therefore, they are going to continue living a sinful life and will continue to be a slave of sin. Did Jesus love people? Yes. But did people ever get offended by what Jesus said? Yes.
(John 6:60-69)
“60 Therefore many of His disciples, when they heard this said, “This is a difficult statement; who can listen to it?” 61 But Jesus, conscious that His disciples grumbled at this, said to them, “Does this cause you to stumble? 62 What then if you see the Son of Man ascending to where He was before? 63 It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing; the words that I have spoken to you are spirit and are life. 64 But there are some of you who do not believe.” For Jesus knew from the beginning who they were who did not believe, and who it was that would betray Him. 65 And He was saying, “For this reason I have said to you, that no one can come to Me unless it has been granted him from the Father.” 66 As a result of this many of His disciples withdrew and were not walking with Him anymore. 67 So Jesus said to the twelve, “You do not want to go away also, do you?” 68 Simon Peter answered Him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have words of eternal life. 69 We have believed and have come to know that You are the Holy One of God.”
But wait— wasn’t Jesus the GOD of love? Yes, but Jesus is also the GOD of Truth, justice, and holiness. It is a fact that many people got offended by the things Jesus said. And if people got offended by the loving yet truthful words of Jesus, why would it be any different for me? In fact, Jesus warned all His followers that because the world hates Him, they will also hate us (John 15:18-20). And why do they hate Jesus? Because Jesus is the Word (John 1:1,14) and the Word opposes, rebukes, and condemns all sin while proclaiming holiness. And if GOD’s Word is of the utmost importance, we should thoroughly examine GOD’s Word to see what is written and then ask ourselves if we are in alignment with His Word.
The truth is that many people want the Jesus who is love, but they don’t want the Jesus who will return with judgment. Many people desire the GOD of grace, but they don’t want the GOD of justice. But GOD is both mercy and justice, love and Truth, grace and judgment. You cannot have one without the other. In fact, even when Jesus loved the woman who had been caught in the act of adultery, He warned her before parting ways from her by telling her, “From now on sin no more” (John 8:11). Why did Jesus warn her to sin no more? Because once a person knows the Truth yet still decides to do wrong, there is no longer a covering for that sin. Romans 6 tells us that GOD’s grace is not an excuse for our sins.
(James 4:17)
“Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin.”
(2Peter 2:21)
“For it would be better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than having known it, to turn away from the holy commandment handed on to them.”
(Acts 17:30-32)
“30 Therefore having overlooked the times of ignorance, God is now declaring to men that all people everywhere should repent, 31 because He has fixed a day in which He will judge the world in righteousness through a Man whom He has appointed, having furnished proof to all men by raising Him from the dead.” 32 Now when they heard of the resurrection of the dead, some began to sneer, but others said, “We shall hear you again concerning this.”
If you’ll take notice, the message was repentance and accepting Christ Jesus. Some people got offended; however, some people allowed Truth into their hearts and they desired to hear more. Both Jesus and His disciples always preached the message of repentance. Why? Repentance involves recognizing that you have thought wrongly in the past and determining to think rightly in the future. The repentant person has “second thoughts” about the mindset he/she formerly embraced. There is a change of disposition and a new way of thinking about GOD, about sin, about holiness, and about doing GOD’s will. True repentance is prompted by “godly sorrow,” and it “leads to salvation” (2Corinthians 7:10).
(John 9:39-41)
“39 And Jesus said, “For judgment I came into this world, so that those who do not see may see, and that those who see may become blind.” 40 Those of the Pharisees who were with Him heard these things and said to Him, “We are not blind too, are we?” 41 Jesus said to them, “If you were blind, you would have no sin; but since you say, ‘We see,’ your sin remains.”
And this is why we no longer have an excuse for our sins. We all have GOD’s Word, and GOD’s Word makes it clear as to what is right and what is wrong. Jesus came in love, but He came so that He will be able to judge. Again, GOD’s grace is not our excuse to sin.
(Hebrews 10:26-27)
“26 For if we go on sinning willfully after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, 27 but a terrifying expectation of judgment and the fury of a fire which will consume the adversaries. “
The truth is that it is possible to love someone into Hell. How is that possible? Because if by your definition of love you mean to never declare a judgment of right/wrong, then you will be forced to approve of whatever a person decides to do — even if it goes against GOD’s Word. But if they never hear the truth, they will never be set free. And if you claim to love someone yet approve of their wrong actions and never tell that person the truth and that person goes to Hell, you never truly loved that person because you didn’t tell that person the truth. A tolerance to lies is an intolerance to Truth. Allowing a person to live a lie is the most unloving thing you can do; refusing to share Truth with someone is the most unloving thing you can do. Again, relationship is definitely important. Loving people is a must. But speaking Truth is also a must. In fact, we are commanded to speak Truth out from love (Ephesians 4:15).
Now, you are also right to say that I should consider my sins just as bad as another person’s sins. But there is a great chasm of a difference between acknowledging GOD’s Word and disregarding GOD’s Word while intentionally sinning from slipping in sin, falling, acknowledging GOD’s Word, and always seeking repentance and to come back into alignment with GOD’s absolute moral standard. Too many people desire to change GOD’s Word to suit their desires. But we must never do that.
Now, it seems apparent to me, based on what you wrote, that you struggle immensely with the issue of homosexuality and/or transgenders. Your feelings have allowed you to deeply invest yourself into that lifestyle to the point of accepting sin in order to make yourself and/or others feel better. Understand this: it’s good to care about others’ feelings, but never at the expense of Truth. Feelings don’t determine facts; therefore, feelings should never alter facts. Approving of wrong actions is not the loving thing to do — even if it makes the other person feel accepted. Just as a parent can love and accept a child yet disapprove of wrong actions, so it is with GOD. GOD loves all people and does not desire for anyone to perish, but for all to be saved (1Timothy 2:4; 2Peter 3:9). However, if we claim to be children of GOD and accurate representatives of GOD, we must speak only what GOD speaks (His Word). And if I speak GOD’s Word out through love (even if people get offended by the Truth), I have done the right thing. It is not my responsibility to change a person’s feelings so that they feel accepted. My responsibility as a committed Christian is to speak Truth out from love. If people get offended by Truth, the problem is within them, not in the message. Too many people are attempting to pervert the Gospel in order to appease peoples’ feelings and/or desires. We must never do this. The perversion of the Gospel is discussed in GOD’s Word:
(Galatians 1:6-10)
“6 I am amazed that you are so quickly deserting Him who called you by the grace of Christ, for a different gospel; 7 which is really not another; only there are some who are disturbing you and want to distort the gospel of Christ. 8 But even if we, or an angel from heaven, should preach to you a gospel contrary to what we have preached to you, he is to be accursed! 9 As we have said before, so I say again now, if any man is preaching to you a gospel contrary to what you received, he is to be accursed! 10 For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.”
Ponder: are you trying to change GOD’s Word to accommodate your feelings and desires? Are you approving of wrong/sinful actions even though GOD has already judged those certain actions to be wrong/sinful? Now, if you consider yourself to be a believer and a child of GOD, please read the article I wrote regarding marriage, homosexuality, etc. I wrote it out from love. And at the end of the article, I even challenge other Christians to examine their own sins. The purpose of the article is not to point a finger at homosexuals or transgenders to say they are the problem; rather, the purpose of the article is to reveal the Truth regarding GOD’s Word about sexuality, marriage, and the root of all problems, which is sin. The true purpose of the article is to point the finger at sin and challenge us all to come into alignment with GOD’s will. Thus, I point a finger at what is wrong and then I point a finger at what is right. And from what is right, I point you to the One and only GOD who is Holy.
Defending Marriage:
https://pointlessthorns.wordpress.com/2017/01/24/defending-marriage/
We must seek first the Kingdom of GOD (Matthew 6:33) and desire to do His will, not pursue our fleshly desires (Matthew 26:39,42,44). The perversion of the Gospel was prophesied long ago. It is for this reason, we must be ready either in season or out of season to destroy speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of GOD, and to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2Corinthians 10:3-5).
(2Timothy 4:1-5)
“1 I solemnly charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who is to judge the living and the dead, and by His appearing and His kingdom: 2 preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort, with great patience and instruction. 3 For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but wanting to have their ears tickled, they will accumulate for themselves teachers in accordance to their own desires, 4 and will turn away their ears from the truth and will turn aside to myths. 5 But you, be sober in all things, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry.”
(1Corinthians 15:33-34)
“33 Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company corrupts good morals.’ 34 Become sober-minded as you ought, and stop sinning; for some have no knowledge of God. I speak this to your shame.”
Listen, it’s not my desire to shame you, but I do speak this to your shame. Do not accept a different Gospel other than the one we’ve already received. Listen, you are loved. May you decide, out from the knowledge of being loved and covered by GOD’s grace, to desire to seek GOD’s will, not your own. May you not become a fulfilled prophecy of the perversion of the Gospel. Don’t follow the teachings that tickle your ears and satisfies your sins. We must come into alignment with GOD’s will. Now, did I not speak out from love? I didn’t yell, there was no anger. But it is the Truth.